Not sure if you want to celebrate Valentine’s Day this year? Here are a few reasons why that may be a good idea:
If you are trying to save money. Celebrating Valentine’s Day may come at a premium for many people. Between the store bought flowers, chocolates, gifts and restaurant tab, that is a lot of money spent on one night. According to Bank Rate the average cost a couple spends on Valentine’s day is $512.02 Of course there is the option to cook a romantic dinner at home which is a great way to save money, but if you prefer a night out to celebrate with your partner, but you’re trying to save money, skipping Valentine’s Day and celebrating when prices are less expensive may not be a bad idea.
If you don’t like a formal day to express how you feel about the one you love. If you don’t like the idea of society giving you a formal day to express how you feel about your partner than this holiday may not be for me. Some people might argue that celebrating Valentine’s Day doesn’t mean you can’t be romantic during other days of the year. This is correct, but the opposite is also true. Valentine’s Day forces you to be romantic even when you don’t want to be (for whatever reason). For those that hate a formal day express your feelings to your partner, skipping Valentine’s Day may not be a bad thing.
If you hate crowds and long waits. Even with reservations and carefully laid out plans, you are bound to wait in line in social gatherings where couples would attend including restaurants, cinema’s and bars. If you hate crowds and noisy places, but you enjoy celebrating Valentine’s Day, opt to celebrate before or after this day and enjoy a stress free night.
If your relationship is too new. If you happened to embark on a new relationship close to Valentine’s Day, it might be a good idea to pump the breaks and skip celebrating this year. Even if you enjoy Valentine’s Day, there can be a lot pressure and expectation on this day and adding a new relationship to the mix can complicate things. Be sure to have an open and honest conversation with your partner as to why you may be reluctant to celebrate Valentine’s Day this year. More likely than not, they feel the same way and will understand where you are coming from.
If you find Valentine’s Day gifts boring and predictable. I am not sure who came up with the idea that every women likes store bought flowers and chocolates for Valentine’s Day. Personally, I don’t really care much for store bought flowers and I only enjoy chocolates some of the time, not all the time. Truthfully, I would rather have the money be spent on other things I enjoy. So, after two or three Valentine’s gifts of flowers and chocolates, I asked my husband to stop getting me flowers and chocolates for Valentine’s Day. We still celebrate, but by doing and buying things that we both enjoy.
If you already find other ways to celebrate Valentine’s Day throughout the year. If you have a strong relationship and find unique and romantic ways to show your partner that you care about them, than Valentine’s Day may seem like just another day. Actually, you may resent the idea of being ‘forced’ to do the things you already do throughout the year on this particular day. If your partner feels the same way, then it may make sense to skip celebrating this year.
If you are planning on ending the relationship. I think this is a tough one because if you happen to end a relationship before Valentine’s Day then that might seem like a jerk move, but if you celebrate Valentine’s then end it after, that is even worse. Of course every relationship is unique and has its own unique circumstances for why it started and ended. However, if you find your relationship is going south and you’re planning on ending things, but just looking for the right time, you might be better off not celebrating Valentine’s Day. This will help avoid mixed messages and if you sense the other person feels the same way, then it may not come as a surprise not to celebrate.
Because it is fun to boycott societal norms and it is just another day.